Last updated: August 2026
The monkey sexual position is a suspended or semi-suspended face-to-face configuration where the receiving partner wraps their legs around the penetrating partner's waist and their arms around the penetrating partner's neck or shoulders, while the penetrating partner supports the receiving partner's weight — either standing, seated, or braced against a wall. Both partners contribute to the movement: the receiving partner uses their legs and arms to control depth and rhythm; the penetrating partner uses their hips and core to drive the thrusting motion. The result is one of the few penetrative positions where both partners are simultaneously active and neither is passive.
QUICK SUMMARY
- Position type: Standing/suspended face-to-face — both partners active, receiving partner wrapped around penetrating partner
- Difficulty: Advanced ⭐⭐⭐⭐ — requires upper body strength and coordination
- Key advantage: Both partners control depth and rhythm simultaneously — maximum mutual engagement
- Best for: Intensity, face-to-face intimacy, couples who want both partners fully active
- Main challenge: Penetrating partner must support receiving partner's weight
- Enhanced by: Wall support, cock sleeve, sleeve pant for ED, water-based lube
Part of the Domlust Sex Position Guide Series. Spider monkey is the suspended mutual-control position — for the floor-based mutual-control counterpart, see the Spider Position Guide; for maximum standing intensity, see the Captain Position Sex Guide.
Table of Contents
- What Is the Monkey Sexual Position?
- All Monkey Sex Position Variations — Complete Reference
- Why the Suspended Configuration Changes Everything
- How to Do the Spider Monkey Position (Step-by-Step)
- 5 Progressions: Floor to Full Suspension
- Who It's Best For
- How Silicone Changes This Position
- Spider Monkey & ED
- Safety & Strength Requirements
- FAQ
- Related Positions
What Is the Monkey Sexual Position?
The spider monkey sex position takes its name from the spider monkey's characteristic posture — limbs wrapped around a support structure, body suspended, movement driven by grip and core. In the sexual context, the receiving partner is the spider monkey: arms around the penetrating partner's neck, legs wrapped around their waist, body suspended or semi-suspended while the penetrating partner provides the structural support.
What distinguishes the spider monkey from other standing or suspended positions is the receiving partner's active role. In positions like the standing missionary or the captain, the penetrating partner controls all movement while the receiving partner is braced or passive. In the spider monkey, the receiving partner uses their leg grip around the penetrating partner's waist to control depth — pulling closer for more depth, releasing slightly for less — while simultaneously using their arm grip to stabilize their own position. Both partners are working simultaneously.
The face-to-face configuration maintains eye contact and emotional intimacy throughout — which is the spider monkey's primary advantage over rear-entry standing positions.
All Monkey Sex Position Variations — Complete Reference
The "monkey" family of sex positions shares the characteristic of the receiving partner using limb-wrapping to engage with the penetrating partner. Each variation changes the angle, the support structure, or the control dynamic.
| Position | Configuration | Key Feature | Difficulty |
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| Spider Monkey | Standing, face-to-face, receiver suspended | Both partners active, mutual depth control | Advanced ⭐⭐⭐⭐ |
| Funky Monkey | Seated, receiver on lap, face-to-face | Lower physical demand, sustained intimacy | Intermediate ⭐⭐⭐ |
| Crazy Monkey | Standing, receiver fully suspended, no wall support | Maximum intensity, highest strength requirement | Expert ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ |
| Dirty Monkey | Standing rear-entry, receiver's legs wrapped from behind | Deeper penetration angle, no eye contact | Advanced ⭐⭐⭐⭐ |
| Flying Monkey | Receiver lifted higher, legs over penetrating partner's shoulders | Maximum depth, anterior wall targeting | Expert ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ |
| Space Monkey | Wall-supported spider monkey, receiver's back against wall | Most accessible suspended variation, wall reduces weight demand | Intermediate ⭐⭐⭐ |
| Monkey Bar | Receiver grips overhead bar or frame, penetrating partner enters from below | Receiver controls depth via grip height, penetrating partner thrusts upward | Advanced ⭐⭐⭐⭐ |
Why the Suspended Configuration Changes Everything
Most penetrative positions have one partner providing structural support and one partner receiving it. The spider monkey sex position is different: the receiving partner's leg and arm grip creates a closed loop — both partners are simultaneously supporting and being supported by each other.
The Gravity Variable
In floor-based positions, gravity is neutral — it acts equally on both partners and doesn't contribute to penetration depth. In the spider monkey, gravity acts on the receiving partner's body weight, pulling them downward onto the penetrating partner. This means the receiving partner's weight contributes to penetration depth without either partner actively thrusting downward. The baseline depth in the spider monkey is greater than in standing positions where the receiving partner is not suspended.
The Leg Grip Control Mechanism
The receiving partner's legs wrapped around the penetrating partner's waist create a depth control mechanism that no other standing position has. Tightening the leg grip pulls the receiving partner closer — increasing depth. Loosening the grip creates distance — reducing depth. The receiving partner can modulate depth in real time without either partner stopping or repositioning.
The Anterior Wall Angle
In the spider monkey's face-to-face suspended configuration, the penetration angle is naturally upward — the penetrating partner's shaft contacts the anterior wall of the vagina or rectum by default. This is the same anterior wall where the G-spot and prostate are located. The spider monkey targets these structures without requiring either partner to deliberately adjust their angle — the suspended geometry produces it automatically.
How to Do the Spider Monkey Position (Step-by-Step)
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Start with the wall-supported variation (Space Monkey) — not the full suspension. The penetrating partner stands with their back or the receiving partner's back against a wall. The wall provides structural support that reduces the weight-bearing demand on the penetrating partner significantly. Full suspension (crazy monkey) should only be attempted after both partners are comfortable with the wall-supported version.
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Penetrating partner stands, knees slightly bent for stability. Feet shoulder-width apart. Core engaged. The penetrating partner's stance determines the stability of the entire position — a narrow stance or locked knees will cause instability when the receiving partner's weight is added.
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Receiving partner faces the penetrating partner and begins to climb. Hands on the penetrating partner's shoulders first, then arms around the neck. One leg at a time wraps around the waist — not both simultaneously. The penetrating partner supports the receiving partner's weight under their thighs or buttocks with both hands.
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Establish the grip before attempting entry. Both partners should feel stable in the suspended configuration before penetration is attempted. The receiving partner's leg grip should be firm but not constricting. The penetrating partner's hand support should be under the receiving partner's thighs or buttocks — not around the waist, which restricts the receiving partner's leg movement.
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Apply lubrication before entry. The suspended configuration makes mid-session lubrication application significantly more difficult than floor-based positions. Apply generously before the receiving partner climbs — more than you think you need.
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Enter slowly, using the leg grip to control depth. The receiving partner loosens their leg grip to allow entry, then tightens gradually to control depth. The penetrating partner uses hip movement to drive the thrusting motion while maintaining hand support under the receiving partner's weight.
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Establish rhythm through coordination, not speed. The spider monkey's rhythm is a synchronized push-pull: the penetrating partner thrusts forward while the receiving partner pulls with their legs. This coordination takes practice — start slow and build pace only after both partners have found the synchronized rhythm.
5 Progressions: Floor to Full Suspension
1. Funky Monkey — Seated, Lowest Demand
The penetrating partner sits on a chair, bed edge, or firm surface; the receiving partner straddles from above, facing forward, legs wrapped around the penetrating partner's waist. Arms around the neck for stability. This is the funky monkey sex position — the monkey family's most accessible variation. No weight-bearing required from the penetrating partner; the seated surface provides all structural support. The receiving partner controls all movement through hip rocking and leg grip.
Best for: Couples new to the monkey position family, ED couples, long sessions, face-to-face intimacy without physical demand.
2. Space Monkey — Wall-Supported Standing
The space monkey sex position uses a wall to reduce the weight-bearing demand on the penetrating partner. The receiving partner's back is against the wall; the penetrating partner stands facing them, supporting the receiving partner's weight under their thighs. The wall absorbs a significant portion of the receiving partner's weight — making this the most accessible standing monkey variation. The penetrating partner can use the wall as a brace for their thrusting motion.
Best for: First attempt at standing suspension, couples where the penetrating partner has moderate but not exceptional upper body strength, longer sessions than full suspension allows.
3. Spider Monkey — Full Standing Suspension
The standard spider monkey sex position — no wall support, full suspension. The penetrating partner stands and supports the receiving partner's full weight under their thighs or buttocks. The receiving partner's arms around the neck and legs around the waist create the closed-loop support structure. Both partners drive the movement simultaneously. Requires genuine upper body strength from the penetrating partner and core strength from both partners.
Best for: Couples with established strength, maximum mutual engagement, intensity with face-to-face intimacy.
4. Dirty Monkey — Rear-Entry Standing Suspension
The dirty monkey sex position uses the same suspended configuration but with the receiving partner facing away. The receiving partner's back is against the penetrating partner's chest; legs wrapped around the penetrating partner's thighs from the front. Rear-entry penetration — deeper angle, no eye contact, more posterior wall targeting. The penetrating partner has more thrusting leverage in this configuration than in the face-to-face version.
Best for: Deeper penetration, couples who want the suspension dynamic without face-to-face configuration, Dom/Sub dynamics with the penetrating partner in complete control.
5. Flying Monkey — Maximum Depth, Legs Over Shoulders
The flying monkey sex position elevates the receiving partner higher — legs over the penetrating partner's shoulders rather than wrapped around the waist. This changes the penetration angle dramatically: the receiving partner's pelvis is tilted toward the penetrating partner's face, creating the steepest anterior wall angle of any monkey position variation. Maximum depth, maximum G-spot or prostate contact, maximum physical demand. Expert-level position — requires exceptional strength from the penetrating partner and significant flexibility from the receiving partner.
Best for: Maximum depth and anterior wall stimulation, experienced couples, G-spot or prostate orgasm targeting.
MONKEY POSITION PROGRESSION
Funky Monkey → Space Monkey → Spider Monkey → Dirty Monkey → Flying Monkey
Start with Funky Monkey (seated) to establish the leg-wrap and arm-grip mechanics before adding the weight-bearing demand of standing variations.
Who the Spider Monkey Position Is Best For
Couples who want both partners fully active: The spider monkey is one of the only penetrative positions where both partners are simultaneously driving the movement — the penetrating partner thrusting, the receiving partner pulling with their legs. For couples who find the passive/active dynamic of most positions limiting, the spider monkey offers a structural alternative where both partners are equally engaged.
Couples who want standing intensity with face-to-face intimacy: Standing rear-entry positions (captain, dirty monkey) produce intensity without eye contact. The spider monkey delivers the same standing-position intensity with full face-to-face configuration — eye contact, kissing, and chest contact are all possible throughout.
Couples exploring intensity progression: The monkey position family provides a clear progression from seated (funky monkey) to wall-supported standing (space monkey) to full suspension (spider monkey) to maximum depth (flying monkey). Each step increases physical demand and penetration intensity — making the family a structured path for couples building toward more physically demanding positions.
How Silicone Changes the Spider Monkey Sex Position
The spider monkey sex position creates specific conditions for silicone toys that most guides miss. The penetrating partner's hands are occupied supporting the receiving partner's weight — which means any toy enhancement must work passively, without requiring hand adjustment during the session. This is the same constraint as the full nelson: the toy must perform independently once the position is established.
The suspended configuration also means the receiving partner's body weight creates sustained downward pressure on the penetrating partner's shaft throughout. TPE sleeves deform under this sustained gravitational compression — the texture that was supposed to engage the anterior wall flattens within minutes. Platinum-cured silicone maintains shape and texture permanently under sustained compression.
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Spider Monkey & ED
The full spider monkey sex position is not the most ED-compatible configuration — the physical demands on the penetrating partner (weight-bearing, thrusting, and maintaining an erection simultaneously) are significant. However, the monkey position family includes variations that are highly ED-compatible.
Funky monkey for ED: The seated funky monkey sex position removes the weight-bearing demand entirely. The penetrating partner sits; the receiving partner controls all movement through their own hip rocking and leg grip. The penetrating partner's only physical requirement is maintaining the seated position — no thrusting, no weight-bearing, no active movement required. This is the most ED-compatible monkey position variation.
Space monkey for ED: The wall-supported space monkey reduces weight-bearing demand significantly. The wall absorbs a portion of the receiving partner's weight; the penetrating partner can brace against the wall for thrusting support. Less physical demand than full suspension — more accessible for partners with ED who want the standing monkey dynamic.
With a silicone cock sleeve pant, the erection variable is removed entirely in both the funky monkey and space monkey variations. The structured platinum silicone maintains consistent girth and angle regardless of the penetrating partner's arousal level — the receiving partner experiences consistent depth and texture throughout, and the penetrating partner focuses on the grip, the rhythm, and the connection.
Safety & Strength Requirements
Strength assessment before attempting full suspension: The penetrating partner should be able to hold the receiving partner's full body weight for at least 60 seconds in a static hold before attempting the spider monkey sex position. If this is not possible, start with the space monkey (wall-supported) or funky monkey (seated) variations.
Drop risk: The spider monkey's suspended configuration creates a drop risk that floor-based positions do not have. Establish a clear signal — a specific word or two taps — that means "lower me down immediately." The penetrating partner must respond to this signal without hesitation. Practice the lowering motion before attempting the full position.
Lower back strain (penetrating partner): Supporting the receiving partner's weight while thrusting creates significant lower back load. Keep the core engaged throughout — do not arch the lower back to compensate for the weight. If lower back strain develops, lower the receiving partner immediately and do not continue the position.
Wrist and grip fatigue: The penetrating partner's grip under the receiving partner's thighs will fatigue faster than expected. Establish a time limit before starting — 60-90 seconds for first attempts — and lower the receiving partner before grip fatigue becomes a safety issue.
Lubrication is critical: The suspended configuration makes mid-session lubrication impossible without fully lowering the receiving partner. Front-load lubrication significantly — apply to both partners before the receiving partner climbs. Insufficient lubrication in the spider monkey creates friction that cannot be addressed without ending the position.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is the monkey sexual position?
The monkey sexual position is a standing face-to-face configuration where the receiving partner wraps their legs around the penetrating partner's waist and their arms around the penetrating partner's neck, while the penetrating partner supports the receiving partner's weight under their thighs. Both partners drive the movement — the penetrating partner thrusts while the receiving partner controls depth through their leg grip. The suspended geometry naturally targets the G-spot and prostate through an upward penetration angle.
What is the funky monkey sex position?
The funky monkey sex position is the seated variation of the monkey position family. The penetrating partner sits on a chair or bed edge; the receiving partner straddles from above, facing forward, legs wrapped around the waist and arms around the neck. No weight-bearing required — the seated surface provides all structural support. The receiving partner controls all movement through hip rocking and leg grip. The most accessible and ED-compatible monkey position variation.
What is the space monkey sex position?
The space monkey sex position is the wall-supported standing variation of the spider monkey. The receiving partner's back is against a wall; the penetrating partner stands facing them, supporting the receiving partner's weight under their thighs. The wall absorbs a significant portion of the receiving partner's weight, making this the most accessible standing monkey variation. The recommended starting point before attempting full suspension (spider monkey).
What is the crazy monkey sex position?
The crazy monkey sex position is the full-suspension standing variation with no wall support and maximum intensity — the penetrating partner supports the receiving partner's complete weight while thrusting simultaneously, with no external structural support. The highest physical demand of any monkey position variation. Only recommended for couples where the penetrating partner has exceptional upper body and core strength.
Is the spider monkey position good for G-spot stimulation?
Yes — the suspended face-to-face configuration creates an upward penetration angle that targets the anterior vaginal wall (G-spot) and anterior rectal wall (prostate) by default. The receiving partner's body weight pressing downward onto the penetrating partner's shaft creates sustained anterior wall contact throughout the session — not just during active thrusting strokes. A textured cock sleeve amplifies this contact significantly.
Can the spider monkey position work with ED?
The full spider monkey requires significant physical demand from the penetrating partner and is not the most ED-compatible variation. The funky monkey (seated) removes the weight-bearing demand entirely and is highly ED-compatible — the receiving partner controls all movement. The space monkey (wall-supported) is intermediate. A silicone sleeve pant removes the erection variable in both accessible variations.
How is the spider monkey different from the dirty monkey?
The spider monkey is face-to-face — the receiving partner faces the penetrating partner, with eye contact and chest contact throughout. The dirty monkey sex position uses the same suspended configuration but with the receiving partner facing away — rear-entry penetration, no eye contact, deeper posterior angle. Spider monkey emphasizes intimacy and mutual engagement; dirty monkey emphasizes depth and penetrating-partner dominance.
Related Positions — Where Spider Monkey Fits
- Spider Position — The floor-based mutual-control counterpart. Both partners reclined, legs interlocked, simultaneous thrusting — same mutual engagement dynamic as the spider monkey, without the weight-bearing requirement. The recommended starting point before attempting the spider monkey.
- Captain — Standing rear-entry, penetrating partner controls everything. The penetrating-partner-dominant standing counterpart to the spider monkey's mutual-control dynamic. Lower physical demand than spider monkey — the receiving partner is braced rather than suspended.
- Mating Press — Floor-based, penetrating-partner-dominant, maximum anterior wall contact. For couples who want the spider monkey's G-spot targeting without the weight-bearing requirement.
- Jackhammer — Maximum depth and intensity, floor-based, penetrating partner controls everything. The highest-intensity floor alternative to the spider monkey's suspended intensity.
- Best Sex Positions: Complete Guide — Full reference with all positions ranked by intensity and control.
STANDING POSITION INTENSITY PROGRESSION
Captain (standing, penetrating dominant) → Space Monkey (wall-supported) → Spider Monkey (full suspension) → Flying Monkey (maximum depth)
Spider monkey is the mutual-control stage of the standing position progression. Start with space monkey to establish the suspension mechanics before removing wall support.
